As you are preparing for a crucial conversation, ask yourself:
What is the quality I want to bring to this conversation?
Which one of my top 5 values needs to be particularly present to make this happen?
How does this value show up in a conversation? When it is there, what does the conversation feel, sound, look like? What words would I use? What sort of setting would that have to be? How would I set up the encounter?
How might this look like for the other person? What might they be bringing and what would that combination look like? What can you do to keep grounding and reminding yourself of the value you want to bring – regardless of how the conversation goes or how the other person is approaching you?
This could take a bit of practice but is soooooo worth it!