So many of you are brutally stressing themselves out – especially this season. The way we think things should be. The way we’ve always done it.
While I am a big fan of traditions, they can sometimes also be constraining, causing more stress (especially for the people who have to do the upkeep – often the mothers in a family).
Keeping things simple (or a bit simpler than they currently might be) can free up a lot of time and energy for what really matters to you. Is this about spending time with loved ones? About reconnecting with yourself? Is there a special quality you want to bring to the forefront? (being stressed out is probably not the one…)
How is what you have planned serving this quality, this goal? Are there other ways to achieve this outcome that are simpler, cheaper? Can other people pitch in (they might actually like this – I am not kidding)? Where do you need to set boundaries for yourself so you have a chance to enjoy things, too?
You might not want to upset the apple cart today of all days. But you might want to run a few “controlled experiments” at simplification. And then make this a planning item in how you want to set yourself up for the year to come…
Check out the values worksheet here.
Or go deeper and get the book.
Or ping me about how coaching might help.
Lior Locher 