Today’s value: Hope

“Help me, Obiwan Kenobi, you are my only hope.” (Princess Leia, Star Wars. Sending this practically into a galactic void, hoping to get heard. She did.)

I think hope is one of our most beautiful qualities as humans. Lifting your eyes up from the mess we might currently find ourselves in, ad looking at the horizon, the better future. With no proof or confirmation this will come, but with the hope that it might. That tomorrow is another day, that one decision can reset the path to a better future. That there are going to be people helping us along the way (OK, and droids, possibly).

What role does hope play for you? What helps you be hopeful? What were experiences when it worked? When it didn’t work?

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Today’s value: Simplicity

So many of you are brutally stressing themselves out – especially this season. The way we think things should be. The way we’ve always done it.

While I am a big fan of traditions, they can sometimes also be constraining, causing more stress (especially for the people who have to do the upkeep – often the mothers in a family).

Keeping things simple (or a bit simpler than they currently might be) can free up a lot of time and energy for what really matters to you. Is this about spending time with loved ones? About reconnecting with yourself? Is there a special quality you want to bring to the forefront? (being stressed out is probably not the one…)

How is what you have planned serving this quality, this goal? Are there other ways to achieve this outcome that are simpler, cheaper? Can other people pitch in (they might actually like this – I am not kidding)? Where do you need to set boundaries for yourself so you have a chance to enjoy things, too?

You might not want to upset the apple cart today of all days. But you might want to run a few “controlled experiments” at simplification. And then make this a planning item in how you want to set yourself up for the year to come…

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How your values can help you have better conversations

As you are preparing for a crucial conversation, ask yourself:

What is the quality I want to bring to this conversation?

Which one of my top 5 values needs to be particularly present to make this happen?

How does this value show up in a conversation? When it is there, what does the conversation feel, sound, look like? What words would I use? What sort of setting would that have to be? How would I set up the encounter?

How might this look like for the other person? What might they be bringing and what would that combination look like? What can you do to keep grounding and reminding yourself of the value you want to bring – regardless of how the conversation goes or how the other person is approaching you?

This could take a bit of practice but is soooooo worth it!

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Today’s value: Enchantment

Do you believe in magic? At least a tiny little bit? If magic is a movie, enchantment is the everyday, snapshot version. Allowing yourself to be touched and transported a little. Opening the shutters of the mind and allowing something beautiful in to truly touch you and take you away on a bit of a journey to the what-if, reminding you that you are a physical, sensual being.

Our days are often so packed, rectangular and navy-blue, thread count and whatnot. Letting things get to you to actually touch you often feels risky. But when it is good, it whets your appetite for that journey momentarily hinted at. You long for these fragments of stories: Half-forgotten memories, the imaginary, the what-if. Taking the plunge to dive behind the waterfall to see what adventures await.

When this stirs in you, don’t swat it away immediately. Treat yourself to a bit of enchantment. T’is the season. Every season is, if you let it. And you get to keep that cheeky half-grin as you adjust your double-cuffs and snap back into your regular day.

What invites enchantment for you? What does it do for you? How can you build more space for this in your life?

Check out the values worksheet here.
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go deeper and get the book.
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ping me about how coaching might help.