Tag: personal reflection

Today’s value: Care

Again, this is not a loud, heroic-sounding value. And yet so crucial for us humans living together. The small gesture. The tenderness felt (and often not even expressed, at least not explicitly). The nice thing done when nobody is watching. Just because it is the right, the nice thing to do.

When something or somebody is important to us, we want things to be well for them, we wonder how they are, and we want to make things better. And we feel their pain, and we want the pain to go away. We care for the light in their eyes as it if was our own, and we want to preserve it, or to help bring it back.

Acts of love, of selflessness. This by the way should also include care for ourselves, that is where it all starts.

What or who do you care about the most? What do you do for self-care? Is it easier for you to care, or to allow being cared for? How can you step out of your comfort zone a little and do more of what you don’t normally do?

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Today’s value: Trust

Amongst my values, trust probably sits the closest to the core and is the most fragile. Trust is the acted-upon assumption things are going to be OK. That you are going to be OK. That this other person or group of people is going to be OK, in themselves and in relation to you. And that when they trust you, you are able to live up to it. Trust needs to be given, needs to be earned.

Is trust what we do when we can’t have the certainty we really want but can’t get? I recently came across something like this “trust lowers transaction costs”, which is a business-ese way of saying there is no feasible way to achieve 100% certainty and if you did, modern day city life would slow to a crawl or be very cumbersome and expensive. And no more innovation, creativity, positive kinds of risk taking. No proposals. No “yes”. Nobody would ask each other out anymore on a balmy evening either. So, we are yearning for trust. Lots of it. We can’t make this whole “humans being with other humans” thing work otherwise.

What helps you make that first step into trust? What helps you rebuild trust once it has been broken? How do you sustain trust?

Check out the values worksheet here.
Or go deeper and get the book.
Or ping me about how coaching might help.