A practical guide to help you keep going in gnarly times. It starts where you are, and guides you in a solution-focused way to get going again.
(Cover art by the fabulous Simon Heath)
So, you’re in a bit of a mess right now? Your old life might be ashes, your wings singed and broken. A phoenix-in-the-making who can’t wait to fly again. This isn’t the shiny goal book. This is the “crawling on your eyebrows counts as moving forward” book. And how to make that easier so you can get yourself back together, to fly with a bigger wingspan.
This is a longer game. You’re still here. That is great. Keep that up, please. You don’t have to know what the next goal looks like or what the next step is. But you have to keep going. You can sort out the next thing later. In the meantime, get yourself out of the ashes, mend your wings and rebuild. This book (or rather, taking some of the elements and applying them) helps with that. It is a guiding conversation; a wealth of recommendations and examples and it is relentlessly practical. We start with where you are, and build from there. Come on in!
This small but perfectly formed book has 3 main parts (rather predictably, given the title) :
Intro (featuring things like the anatomy of a mess, liminal spaces, journeys and destinations, resilience and growth)
Out of the ashes (sorting out the basics, focus on solutions, working with shame/guilt/regret, being vs. doing and celebrating milestones)
Mend your wings (Your inner and outer support squad, doing the doing)
A bigger wingspan (start flying again): How to bring this back to make life better for others
AND a bonus chapter how to best support others if this isn’t about your own situation